How To Get Over A Broken Heart
I’m often asked by my subscribers how can I get over a broken heart. How does an individual cope with the pain of a break up? It is without a doubt one of the most confronting experiences you are ever likely to go through.
Few things compare with the sense of overwhelming loss and despair that accompany such an event. So in the aftermath of a break up what steps can we take to get over a broken heart? Just how do you survive a break up?
*Remove any physical reminders of your ex. For example photographs, jewellery, possessions, stuffed toys etc. Anything and everything that reminds you of them has to go. I’m not saying necessarily destroy it but certainly remove it from your proximity.
*Avoid seeing your ex. Generally not too hard to achieve, unless of course you work with or attend classes with your ex. Obviously this makes it more difficult to achieve but certainly maintain your distance and keep all interactions to a minimum.
*Do not communicate with your ex. No email, no tweets, no Facebook. Especially no drunken late night phone calls or text messages. I know it’s natural to seek solace from them but its not going to help your recovery from a broken heart.
*Get busy! Both physically and mentally. An active mind has little time to dwell on your ex. In addition there is nothing more likely to encourage a good night’s sleep, than some intense physical exercise.
*Get a new hobby, go on a holiday, perhaps take on a new project. Find something, anything to take your focus off of your ex and to help you get over your broken heart.
*Find written outlets to vent your feelings. This may take the form of a journal or diary or just some random doodling on the back of a napkin. Whatever the format, the important thing is that you get it all out on paper. Often things aren’t real till we write them down, it gives our thoughts form and structure. This kind of order can be reassuring amidst the turmoil and anguish of a break up.
*Make an effort to meet someone else. They don’t have to be the “one”, they just have to fulfill your needs, even if it is short term thing.
*Embrace your freedom. What about that hot guy or cute girl you have seen at the coffee shop, or gym, or WHEREVER!
Introduce yourself, find out a little about them and if you think it’s appropriate ask them out. What’s the worst thing that can happen? They reject you, no worries their loss.
Don’t hesitate; rejection is preferable to regret EVERY TIME!
So there you go. It’s a tough time I appreciate that but hang in there and practice these principles.
Give yourself some time and please remember inevitably you will love again. Learn what you can from this experience and apply it to whatever relationships you may have in the future.
A tremendous e-book you may be interested in is
Michael Webbs, 1000 Questions For Couples
I think some of these questions should be mandatory when meeting new people. If you want to truly know your next partner then its crucial that you ask some of these.
Good luck.
Ryan
